If you caught me yesterday on my Instagram stories, then you know I was in a bit of a funk. You know the morning when you wake up with a headache and you just can't get into gear alll day long? That was yesterday. I tried to jumpstart myself at the gym and while it helped, it didn't get me across the finish line. Naturally, I self-medicated with tacos and Target after that.
While I was pursuing the aisles, I started snapping all the fun finds I came across...hope you enjoy some of these simple pleasures like I did yesterday. Prepare for photo overload. :)
Shoes never actually solve any of my problems, but somehow, they also make them better. Loved these cute slides, and their sister.
This is the item that started me snapping in the first place, because how could I not share this with you! I can't find this on Target's website, but here is the original. I like the Target version better...along with the price tag too.
The bib is equally amazing...and also not online, but here are the originals to choose from.
I always love a good hat and this faux leather one was really cute for those days you're stretching your hair washing one too many days.
I can't find this bag online either and it's driving me crazy! Big and roomy, it's a lot like the MZ Wallace bag, but a fraction of the cost & I love the floral. Run and get it in store.
I realize the photo is not doing this one justice, but this polka dot rain jacket had me wishing we saw more rain.
This table runner made it's way into my cart, because it has the perfect touch of whimsy. Also loved this one too.
Wanted to take this lamp home with me too...this one is similar.
Anthropologie had a wreath similar to these several years ago and I actually made one (back when I was willing to DIY something) and it turned out so good -- it still hangs on my front door. This one is good and full and costs less than my DIY version.
There were a few other things, that really caught my eye for little girls. This jacket, these pants and holy cow, these toddler shoes & these toddler shoes.
My newest listing will be hitting the market soon, but if you want to see it prior to it going 'active' shoot me a text at 480-332-3450.
This house is full of possibilities! The owners have lived in the home for over 35 years and have taken such great care of it! Located on .8 of an acre, on a cul-de-sac in the heart of Mesa, it's brimming with mature trees and almost total privacy in the backyard.
Coming in at 3,000 livable sq ft, offering 4 beds, 3 baths, living room and dining room. It also offers, an additional family room, which is currently being used as an office.
In addition to all this space, the home boasts a large play pool that has been resurfaced AND a 900 sq ft workshop at the top of the carport. Like I said, SO MUCH potential in the heart of Mesa.
1725 E. Fountain Street, Mesa
Before heading back to real estate I was running a successful online storefront, designing and selling the most comfy tee you'd ever wear. I was happy with it. It was a hobby that generated me a great income while I was in the thick of having babies, but more than that, it was a creative outlet, a space that was solely mine. I built the website, designed the logo, ordered the inventory, photographed the inventory and shipped it. It was exhilarating to see a small idea grow into something substantial.
Over time I began to outgrow what it had to offer me...even though some days I still have the itch to design a tee or two, I knew I wanted to pursue 'something' else. In all honestly, I also knew that the 'something else' was real estate, I just wasn't sure how to get back to it. That...and I told myself all sorts of lies so that I could stay in, what I thought was, my nice comfortable spot. For two years, I debated going back to real estate. For two years, I told myself a variety of different lies & if you've been hesitating on pursuing something you love, I bet you're telling yourself some whoppers too. Here's the 3 big lies I told myself and how I moved through them.
1. It will be detrimental to my kids. Part of my hesitation leaving my online storefront and going back to real estate was that it felt like I was leaving a hobby and pursuing a career and I had a lot of untruths in my mental space about working mom's. I grew up in a culture where most mothers didn't pursue careers outside of the home. My mother never worked, my friend's moms never worked, I had not ever seen it modeled & I kept wondering what was wrong with me that I wasn't satisfied with what was going on within my four walls. Why wasn't that enough for me? That question swarmed in my head for YEARS and I grappled with the guilt and shame that followed the lies I told myself. I spent many nights crying to my husband, apologizing if he was upset that I always pursued career endeavors over laundry endeavors. For the record, he never was upset and was always the quiet voice of reason. Reminding me that in fact it was just the opposite. While I had always pursued outside interests, I never was willing to compromise my kids in the process. He'd quietly remind me that I didn't go to law school, that I quite my job when I had a baby and that I had turned down other opportunities that would have taken me out of the home.
It took a long time to clear the mental garbage to come to the realization that not only would pursuing real estate NOT be detrimental to my kids, but just the opposite. Two years in, I can fully attest that while they do have to make some sacrifices on my behalf, it has always been an asset instead of a liability.
2. People will think I'm a slimy salesperson. Truth is, they might, but those people aren't your people. The people that think your a slimy salesperson probably have time to think that about you because they aren't doing anything worthwhile. At least that's the story I tell myself. In all honesty though, EVERYONE that owns their own business is a salesperson. Seriously. Doctors, lawyers, dentists, teachers...they're all trying to sell you something. Doctors need to sell procedures, lawyers & dentists need to sell services and teachers, well they're selling education.
3. I don't know what I'm doing. This one I was certain was absolutely true. In the purest of senses, I didn't feel experienced enough. I had literally never written a resale contract prior to shutting down my online shop, so this felt like a big leap. Even worse, I had gone to real estate school ten years prior. Ask me how much I remembered? About nothing. Turns out, that while yes, the paperwork needs to be done properly, its only about 10% of the transaction. So much more of real estate is about marketing, listening and angling. Turns out, my previous experiences in running businesses and raising kids made me really good at those things. Honesty, if you're a mom, you're built for real estate. You've learned to be a good listener, compassionate and read the non-verbals. You also might not know this yet, but you're also a master at marketing and negotiating, but that's another post for another day.
At the end of the day, all these lies were just silly stories I was telling myself in an effort to try and keep me 'safe' and 'comfortable.' Two years in though, I can look back and tell you that they didn't keep me safe, nor did the serve me well in any way. It took some time, but I developed a different story line for myself. Instead of telling myself that it would be detrimental to my kids, I told myself that them seeing me take a chance and pursue something I loved would give them the permission to do the same one day. Oddly enough, I'm pretty sure, I'll be in a position to be a huge support to them when they're ready, because I can say, 'yeah, I've been there, here's a thought.'
Instead of telling myself people will think I am a slimy salesperson, I now ask myself, who needs my help today? My goal is to always be of service and people can think what they think. Instead of telling myself that I don't know what I'm doing, I know tell myself, I'm uniquely qualified to handle each client's situation and guess what? That's actually the truth. I am uniquely qualified and I can handle it.
No matter what you're wanting to pursue, if you're struggling to get started, take inventory of the stories you're telling yourself. Do they match where you want to go? Are you creating scenarios in your mind that aren't true? Take the time to sort through it and change your thoughts. As you change your thoughts you'll begin to feel differently, which will allow you to take the action you've always been hesitating on...and then, then you will get the results you've always wanted.
Whatever it is you're after, I'm rooting for you.
Last month I took some time to focus on speaking my praises. I'm a firm believer in the process of managing your thoughts in order to manage your feelings, which lead to your action and then your results. Over the years, I've gotten really good at in the wisdom of Peter Pan, 'thinking happy thoughts,' and I can tell you it has made a bigger impact on my life than I originally thought it would.
Last month, I worked to take those thoughts a step forward and speak them. Whether by a comment on Instagram, a quick phone message, text or a quiet word while tucking someone into bed, I worked hard to speak my praises. I already knew that managing my thoughts had a profound effect on keeping myself settled, that I wasn't all that surprised to realize, that speaking those praises, well it magnified that settled feeling. Each time I did it, I realized that not only was it a gift for the person receiving the kind words, but it was also a gift to myself. As I spoke those praises, I began to notice more and more things worth praising, and it was a bit humbling to recognize more fully the goodness and abundance in my life.
Moving into November, I'm switching my focus up a bit and it might seem a touch counter-intuitive, but this month, the phrase I'm going to focus on is: Take time to be curious about yourself.
I realize November is supposed to be the month of giving and extending ourselves to others and while I am certain that will still hold a place for me, I often times feel so very stretched this month & I think most women in my stage of life feel the same.
Most mothers & women I know are natural born givers. They give and give in any way they can. They are happy to help in the classroom, and want to host a wonderful birthday party too. If you've had a baby, they want to bring you dinner as well. They want to coach the volleyball team and if you need a volunteer for the soup kitchen, well they'll do that too. On top of that, they'll wake up early for work, pack lunches for their kids, drive carpool, a make homemade neighbor gifts for everyone around them. I've noticed the problem is never a lack of givers. Perhaps it is that we ask too much of our givers, that flat wear them out before they are able to cultivate their ultimate gift to give.
And then November shows up and so much is asked of us this month. It starts with Halloween parties, rolls into family photos, charges towards Christmas with a full day of cooking and family at the end. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy every single one of those things, but if I'm not careful I can get so caught up in being a part of those things and doing them to a level that I'm satisfied with, that by the end I'm completely deflated and verging on resentful.
And that's not who I want to be.
So this month, I'm going to take time to stay curious about myself. I'm choosing to check in on myself more and perhaps not to give my whole entire self to all of those activities. I'm choosing to carve out some time and space for opportunities for me to waste time doing something I enjoy, because if I enjoy it and it refills my tank, it's not time wasted. It is going to take some trade-offs. It might be choosing a simple dinner, so that I can go on a hike with my family (November is the best hiking weather!). It might be allowing myself to go to bed early so that I can tackle a full day the next day. It might be practicing my lettering, because every year when I'm addressing Christmas cards, I think, 'gosh! I wish I would have practiced this more.' I know it will certainly include wasting away a Saturday, planting my flower pots, full of red geranuiums. It's not necessary, but its enjoyable and I'm seeking out more enjoyment for me this month.
I realize these are simple examples, but the enjoyment is usually in the simple. What happens when I allow time to march on by while I toil away planting flowers is pure magic. Instead of rushing from thing to thing, I find myself thinking of my grandmother and her flower gardens. I think of the letters she wrote me prior to my marriage and the advice contained therein, I think about the amount of effort she exerted on my behalf, planning elaborate family reunions and sacrifices she made to love those around her. Then my mind wanders to my own mother and the time we used to spend planting red geraniums. The care and precision she had in her process. Preparing the soil, removing the weeds, making sure it was done just right. By the time I'm done planting those flowers, I'm a different person than when I started. I'm renewed to try a little bit better, be a little kinder and full of gratitude. Each time I water those pots I'll be reminded again and again. I encourage you to take a minute and ponder on what you want to explore and pursue this month, then set about doing it. It doesn't need to be grandiose, but it does need to feed your soul.
I'm saving this as my screen saver on my phone to remind myself to not take myself for granted. To take care of myself, so I can better take care of those around me. To feed myself, to cultivate my gifts, so that I can more fully and deliberately give them to others.
You are worth being curious about. Do not lose yourself in this season of giving.
Hi, I'm Amy. When I'm not scouring the valley for the perfect new house, you can usually find me in the kitchen with a gaggle of kids. Chips, salsa and a Diet Coke are usually in hand.